What do I do right now?

Pick the moment you're in.

If this is an emergency

For injury, breathing difficulty, loss of consciousness, risk of self-harm or any dangerous situation, contact emergency medical services immediately. Do not wait for guidance here.

Common moments

Meltdown or distress

Safety first, reduce demands, lower the noise

Transitions

First / then, countdowns, visual warnings

Public places

Shorter trips, familiar items, an exit plan

Mealtimes

Predictable seating, small steps, no pressure

Sleep routine

Same order every night, calm light, wind-down

School mornings

Prepare the night before, visual schedule

In a moment of distress

· Make the space safe first — move hard or sharp things away.
· Lower your voice and reduce words.
· Dim lights, reduce noise, give space.
· Wait. Recovery takes longer than the moment itself.

Try not to

· Add new instructions or questions.
· Introduce consequences in the moment.
· Ask your child to explain while they're still distressed.

If distress is frequent, intense or new, speak with your professional.